A perfectionist. “A person that refuses to accept any standard short of perfection.” Does this sound like your child? Or you? Perfectionism seems to be an applauded trait. Of course, employers and schools would like their people to take particular care with their work and always turn it in without any errors.
But there is a dark side to this.
Fear. Unrealistic pressure. Anxiety. An inner mindset that you must be perfect at all costs, otherwise you are a failure. This leads to avoiding anything “risky”, quitting, depression, anxiety, guilt, frustration, procrastination, ad infinitum.
Some signs that your child (or you) are a perfectionist?
- Being overly cautious.
- Asking a lot of questions.
- Getting upset after failing to meet unrealistic goals.
- Focusing on mistakes in a project, regardless of how minor the mistake and how great the success.
- Rigidity in feeling there is only one proper way to do a thing.
- All or nothing mentality.