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7 lazy mom steps to being a happier parent

Today is National Lazy Mom’s Day. I don’t think I’ve ever worked harder than I have since becoming a mom, and that goes for most other moms I know too. In fact, if you give us a free moment to relax without kids, chances are our minds will immediately turn to those unwashed dishes in the sink (or strewn around …

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The 6 biggest lies I believed before having kids

Just about all of us had a few wrong ideas about raising kids before we became parents ourselves. Some of these ideas might have been based on our own wacky ideas of how we would do things differently than everyone else. Other ideas we take for granted as new parents, only to realize later how laughable the idea was. Below are six …

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I teach at a university and I unschool my kids

I’ve been in school almost my entire life. I started preschool shortly before turning 3. I started elementary school at age 6. I followed the standard path through middle school and high school and then went directly to college. After college I earned two Master’s degrees and then a PhD. Even after that I didn’t want to leave. I now …

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How we found balance with screen time

Like any 1980s child, I grew up watching TV. And not just the occasional commercial-free documentary for its educational content. We’re talking Looney Toons, Nickelodeon shows with the apparent sole purpose of broadcasting green slime dumped on people’s heads, and the same Disney movies hundreds of times over. It was fun. Sometimes it was boring. I believe it was referred …

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9 things never to say to an attachment parent

1. Are you STILL breastfeeding? Yes, we are still breastfeeding. Many of us continue to nurse until our children outgrow the need. Others choose to employ some gentle weaning strategies. We will probably point out that the World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding for a minimum of two years, and thereafter as long as the mother and child desire. (Note: not …

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Raising a new generation to drive out hate with love

More shootings. More tragedy. More victims. More lives lost. More shattered families. It’s exhausting. It’s infuriating. There is a place for those feelings. There is a place for anger. We should be angry about the loss of life. We should be angry about violence happening again and again in our communities. We should use this anger to galvanize ourselves into …

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Do kids really need consequences?

Much has been written about the Brock Turner case involving the now infamous rapist-who-was-also-an-athlete, who was sentenced to a meager 6 months in jail for the crime. Many articles on this topic focus on the need for children to experience the consequences of their actions. These arguments say that if children aren’t held accountable (i.e., punished) for their actions as …

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Beyond normalizing breastfeeding: normalizing childhood

Have you ever hesitated to travel by air with a baby? The idea of it strikes fear into the heart of many parents. “What if the baby cries?!” You’re stuck on an airplane with hundreds of other people. What will they think? Have you ever hesitated to take a toddler to a restaurant? Making dinner every. single. night. is exhausting …

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Let’s stop blaming the kids

I have a terrible habit of running a little bit late. I plan to arrive to events or to meet friends at the scheduled time, but then something gets in the way. My 4 year old neeeeeds her pink shorts. My 2 year old insists that she has to put her socks on by herself.  (“I do it!”) My hopes of …

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Simplifying the holidays: Easter edition

    Reliving the childhood magic of holidays through the eyes of our children is one of the highlights of parenthood. At the same time, holidays can present a conundrum for those of us who are trying to simplify and focus on the things that matter most to us. How do we create holiday fun without the consumerist frenzy that …